Get Your Ex Back - 10 Break Up Blunders To Avoid
No matter how good your intentions of wanting to stop your break up and win your ex back are, if you are committing some of these common break up blunders you will actually be hurting your chances of winning your lost love back.
Are you guilty of committing any of these ten break up blunders?
1. Telling your ex that they are making a huge mistake. This won't convince your ex to change their mind, they will only be more relieved that they decided to break up with you in the first place.
2. Calling too soon after the break up. Your ex has broken up with you and it should be clear enough that they want some space right now and the last thing they need is to hear from you.
3. Drunk Dialing. You have imbibed a bit too much and are really letting your emotions run amuck so you keep picking up the phone to try and get your ex to talk to you. See # 2
4. Leaving tons of email and voice mail messages.... Again - see # 2
5. Telling your ex and everyone who will listen how sad, lonely and depressed you have been since the breakup. If you are hoping to win the sympathy of your ex you need to understand that this is just being manipulative, and no matter how unintentional it may be you are still overwhelming them with your emotions and neediness, a real relationship killer.
6. Continuing to argue about the breakup and bring up past disagreements and misunderstandings. Perhaps you do get your ex's attention and get them to talk to you. Is this the best use of your precious contact time? It really is being fairly petty and immature and really isn't going to get you where you want to go. It only keeps you stuck in the past instead.
7. Professing your undying love over and over. Even if you think that they don't understand how much you really love them, obviously that is not the issue right now or they wouldn't have left. It's time to take a different perspective and analyze what went wrong with the relationship and what you could do better instead of thinking that true love will conquer all.
8.Apologizing over and over and over again. Now if you did do something wrong, perhaps really blew it by breaking a big promise or cheating on your ex an apology certainly is in order. But you have to know the right way to make an effective apology, and hardly anyone really knows how to do this. You also have to know when to apologize instead of apologizing too soon. And if you didn't do anything that needs to be apologized for, then you are only compromising yourself, an unattractive trait in anybody.
9. Trying to make your ex jealous. Now this may work initially because of the way humans are wired to seem to want what they can't have, and may even be a small part of a smart strategy to get your ex back. But it still won't help you in the long run if you are only depending on manipulative tactics to win your ex back. The underlying problems that caused the break up in the first place will still be there and if those aren't addressed you'll only be heading for another break up.
10. Pleading with them to take you back. I'll let you in on a little secret here: people like people who like themselves, who are emotionally secure enough not to want someone back so desperately that they will sacrifice their self respect by begging.
Now you know the common blunders to avoid if you are serious about wanting to win back your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband. So start analyzing where the relationship went wrong and what needs to change and then being planning a SMARTER strategy to get your ex back.
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