That First Date for Youngsters
If you have a young boy or girl who is getting ready for that first big date of their teenage life, you can probably remember how nervous you got that first time. And for many parents, we get as nervous as the kids get about that first stab at taking a girl out on a date for real. So if you can help him out with some ideas on what to do and how to conduct the date, it will make things go a lot smoother for him.
If you have a son he would probably prefer to do it all alone, but it is inevitable that he is going to rely on some sort of chaperone during the date. After all, you have to drive them around don't you? Make sure he has planned ahead for this so he does not sulk when you have to take them both to places.
You don't want your young guy to go on the first date and either be too pushy or expect too much. Kids need to learn that things take time and the best piece of advice you can give him is that he should just have fun and show his date his true self. Let him know that if he can just make a good impression now then the next dates will be a lot more relaxed and he can work for that first kiss then.
To get past the first date nerves then you could suggest to him that he organises a group date. This means that both he and his date will feel more comfortable and will be able to get to know each other without all the pressure. Having said that though it is important you let them know that they should be staying with their date while out. Not slipping off with their friends to have fun and then wiping out the whole concept of a 'date'.
If he is afraid other people may try and make a move on his date then he can do a few simple things to make sure that everybody there knows that she is with him. A flower for her to wear that he gives early in the date not only can make her feel like a princess, it can "mark" this girl as "taken". But at the function by staying together, getting her drinks and "being her date", the other kids will get the picture and not get in the way.
There are other nice outings that two kids can enjoy together and begin to explore the world of dating. Bowling is always good because it's a game and once they get there and start playing, the nervousness will disappear. Movies are always good too as long as the feature is age appropriate because parents can drop the kids off at the theater and know when to pick them up.
We often think of dates as meals at a restaurant, they have so often been portrayed that way in films and on TV. Until he gets more experience try and get him to steer away from such a formal date, until he has the skills to make it a success. If he likes the idea of taking her out for food though he could take her to a food court in a mall, that way the atmosphere is less formal and he still gets to be the gentleman and buy the food.
The young man should be also be taught that at the end of the first date he should be a perfect gentleman and walk her all the way home. He should understand that he does not need to get a kiss to have a good date, that all women are different and he will offend her if he tries to force a kiss. Tell him to watch for signs that she wants to kiss him on the cheek or give him a hug etc, no doubt her parents will be watching from inside so tell him he doesn't want to upset them on the first date!
Then once he has mastered his first ever date his confidence will blossom, he will then be free to learn for himself all the different areas of the 'dating game' and blossom into a proud young man with a beautiful woman on his arm.
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