Why You Need to RUN AWAY When He is Pursuing You!
WANTING is a funny thing, if you think about it. How exactly do you get someone to want something? If you are in the dating market, this is a question you have to be ABLE to answer - because in order to get a partner, boyfriend or husband, you have to know what to do to make the man want you.
Most of us are not born salespeople. If we want someone to want something, we don't sit there and tell someone how awesome it is, convincing them that they need it. You don't offer it to them for free, certainly, because you know how much you could "get out of it".
What makes an individual place value on an item most of the time is rarity. Think about a precious gem for instance. Emeralds, rubies, diamonds - they cost so much because they are not easily accessible. They must be looked for, found, dug up. Because of that, they are highly valued and treasured. I, for one, want to be a diamond!
The fact is, you ARE a diamond. In order to keep yourself attractive and interesting to men, you have to think of yourself as valuable, rare and sought after. Think about it in terms of some precious item that you just HAD to have. Once you get it - you think it's awesome for a few days, and then over time, it begins to lose interest. You have been satisfied; therefore, you are not making an EFFORT anymore to get it.
Once you HAVE the item you want, the allure of the item fades. The same is true in dating. If you let him "have" you too soon, then he loses interest in you a lot faster. The attraction starts to fade quickly if you are no longer giving him the thrill of the chase that men love so much.
So what you need to do to create attraction for your date is to think of yourself as a wild animal, unable to be captured. Most women, though, WANT to be captured! As funny as that sounds, to many women, the idea of being caught and "tamed" is sexy and alluring - they like the idea of the strength that represents for a man. However - if you want to keep HIM attracted, you need to lead him on a merry chase.
All well and good - but how do you DO that? Try taking a look at the things that tell a man you are HIS. First of all - sex. There are few things that say to a woman "I am in a relationship" more than sex. To a man, however, this is not the case. To him, sex is sex. So - don't give to him for free what has HUGE VALUE to you. Don't have sex with him until you are SURE you have a relationship!
Next, try to leave him wanting more with the little things. The next time you and he are really having a great conversation, end it a little early. Don't wait until it naturally tapers off, cut it off before that. This way, he will be left wanting more - thinking about you and your connection, and anticipating talking to you again.
Other things you can do include making him wait for date. Say the first time he suggests a date for a Friday night - you, as a busy and wanted woman, are not available that night. Tell him you can't, but maybe the next Friday? You can also not answer the phone when he calls you. Make him wait a few hours or maybe a whole day before calling him back. Do you see the pattern here? Make him PURSUE YOU!
Scarcity adds value - and you are a valuable treasure. The great thing is, these tactics can be used to attract a man in the beginning, but they can also be used to keep the attraction in the relationship alive and blooming after the newness has worn off.
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