Helpful Hints for Quitting Smoking and the Will to Live
So in this blog about helpful hints for quitting smoking it seems oddly appropriate to speak about my dad, who passed away last week. He was not a smoker, so that was not the issue. But the one thing I have to say is that for the past few years he was truly not enjoying his life.
As I watched my dad in his last years I saw a weary, dreary life. Songs and jokes he had once loved to spout were gone from him. His ability to do skits and act in silly ways was no longer present. Even the food he had once greatly enjoyed had lost its flavor inside of his illnesses. He was, in short, deprived of all that he loved in life.
So why do I mention all of this in a blog about helpful hints for quitting smoking? Well first I want to say that I consider this blog to be more of an inquiry about the subject of quitting, than a place that has all of the answers, and I am not an expert on quitting smoking.
Now one could argue that I am an expert on addictions, and why people do what they do, as they do it. And one could argue that I am an expert on how people can shift their behavior. But in the final analysis, neither I nor anyone else can have you quit smoking. It is only you who can do it.
So as an inquiry, I mull over the fact that my dad had in some ways lost his heart and soul, and in fact his will to live. Now it is true that he struggled about leaving the rest of us behind. But in the final analysis, his will to be 'done with it all' won out.
And also as an inquiry I have to wonder how much success a person would have in quitting smoking if he or she were not very happy in life. I have to think that if there is terminal upset, chronic pain or sadness around one's life, or if one is in some unhappy situation, the drive to fulfill some background desire to end it all might be quite strong. And smoking is certainly a socially acceptable way to do it without looking like you are.
Now I would be the last one to say that all people who smoke are fulfilling death wishes. Smoking is an addiction and it is pretty hard to conquer the physical and emotional cravings. However I do say that it is probable that my blog on helpful hints for quitting smoking will not be useful to those who are actually living lives of misery. There would almost have to be some latent, or blatant, desire to stop the pain, somehow.
My dad, before he became so desperately ill, had a strong love of life and a high level of happiness no matter what his situation was. You can have that too. You can begin to do this by being honest with yourself about the true state of your happiness and then taking the steps to live a life you love. This in turn will increase your will to live. As you do that you can also be using Hypnosis or Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or some other tool to help you to quit smoking. Taken together, I would see this as a good formula. Now living a life of happiness can seem to be a bit elusive. However, it is a subject I speak about in my other blogs, so visit them as well, and they should be a help.
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