Get Your Ex Back Instead Of Pushing Them Away Instead
If you are trying desperately to get your ex back it's important to understand that the emotional pain you are experiencing right now could keep you from thinking clearly. It's time to step back and take a good look at how you have been handling the situation so far. Many people keep blundering along making things worse so you may not even see that your actions might actually be pushing your ex even further away instead of increasing your chances that you will get your ex back.
Something seems to happen to people who feel like they have lost someone or something they desperately want to get back, they allow their emotions to take over and don't realize that desperation sets in. Soon you are exhibiting the push away behaviors that make it much harder to get your ex to come back to you.
Begging or pleading with your ex to come back to you will only push them further and further away from you.. You probably think that if they really know how much you love them and need them they will finally get it and come flying back into your open arms. Not likely - you might find that you have pushed them into someone else's waiting arms instead!
You need to regain a sense of your own dignity here. Remember one of the many classic movie scenes you may have watched where the ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend character is trying desperately to win back their lover with needy declarations of undying love, or convince them that they will change, or make it up to their ex for whatever they think they did wrong?
As you sat in the theater and watched a scene like that weren't you usually cringing inside with embarrassment for the poor man or woman that was exhibiting such humiliating behavior and didn't even realize it? Or even if they were aware of it they seemed powerless to stop themselves. You know as you watch that scene that our poor suffering movie character is ruining any chance they might have of getting back their ex.
Now can you see yourself in that movie scene that you just thought of? Are you doing any of those soul crushing behaviors that are not only hurting your self esteem by making you feel worse and worse but also continuing to push your ex away too?
I'm sure you think that if you can just convince your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend of your love for them you will win them back, so you will do anything it takes, no matter how humiliating, to get them to understand how much you love them and need them. Perhaps you believe that yours is a true love, and true love conquers all - right? Well true love is the operative word here, or perhaps a better word would be real love instead.
Real love isn't desperate or needy. Real love is confident enough to allow your ex to have the space they need right now and give them time to breath before you make your next move - and if you play your cards right your next move will make it all the more likely that you will be able to get your ex to come back to you instead of continuing to push them away.
Even if you think you've blundered things too much, don't despair, it's never too late! Now is the time to take that step back and give it a break. Use this time wisely to pull yourself together and start learning a SMARTER WAY to get your ex back.
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